Perhaps you’ve tried dating apps and sites before, and you had a few bad experiences. Or maybe, you prefer dating the old-fashioned way.
These are no reasons to dismiss online dating totally.
True, dating sites and apps are far from perfect – from the dearth of potential dates that match your preferences to outright creepy men.
But like it or not, apps and sites for dating are here to stay. You can stick to offline dating and hope that you meet someone who can potentially become a long-term partner. Or you can make use of each and every available dating tool at your disposal, including apps and websites.
If you maintain an open mind, these dating tools can help you get closer to your goal of finding your Mr. Right. Listed here are some insights of a dating coach for women on some of the best dating apps and sites and nifty features that you should know.
Online dating sites
Dating sites have been around since the Internet became accessible to the general public. And although apps for dating have become the trendier option for many people, especially the younger ones, there are plenty of reasons why you should consider creating a dating profile on the dating websites listed below.
Match is easily one of the more recognizable (and bigger) dating websites around. But perhaps more importantly, the website is well-entrenched in the industry, owning several assets like Tinder, Plenty Of Fish, and OkCupid.
Match offers a few advantages over other apps and sites. For starters, it caters to singles who are serious about their search for a long-term relationship.
Second, you have to pay for a membership account. That’s critical for one key reason: members are screened, leading to more serious matches.
Of course, that does not totally eliminate the possibility that you’ll find trolls and other mischievous people on the dating site. But that is one big barrier to entry.
And unlike some apps and sites that cater mostly to people who are into casual dating, most profiles on this site are from mature people looking for serious relationships.
Overall, Match is a great place to start if you want to dip your toes into the waters of online dating.
As previously mentioned, OkCupid is owned by the same company that runs Match, having acquired it years ago.
One of the chief advantages of this dating site is that you need to answer a series of questions from a personality quiz. This translates to better dating profiles.
Plus, the dating website has been revamped in response to the popularity of apps like Tinder and Bumble.
Today, you can contact another site member without becoming a match. However, your message will not show up in the other person’s inbox until you become a match with each other.
That’s a nifty feature that can shield you from creeps and their offensive messages. But on the flip side, that can also mean sending messages that might not be read.
While most dating apps are geared primarily toward casual dating, it is worth giving these dating tools a shot, especially if you’ve grown tired of offline dating.
When it comes to apps for dating, Tinder is probably the most popular. Not the best, but the most popular.
One of the chief reasons behind that is that using the dating app can give you an instant rush, particularly when you match with someone.
And it doesn’t hurt that you get to see plenty of hot people — a lot.
But be aware that it has several drawbacks. For one, you don’t get to know much about the person you’ve matched up with.
Second, a match doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to meet the person face-to-face. There are several anecdotes of ghosting on the app.
Finally, the app is geared more towards a male audience. That’s not to say that women can’t go out with people based solely on looks. But if you are looking for a serious commitment, appearances should be on the tail-end of your list.
If Tinder is geared towards a male audience, Bumble strives to become its opposite.
This free dating app is similar to Tinder. But its chief advantage over the competition is that women always initiate communications.
And for a woman, that’s a great feature. That means fewer creepy men and harassing messages.
But like Tinder, the app has its own set of deficiencies. For one, you get to know very little about the person you’ve matched with.
Hinge is probably one of the better apps currently out now.
It has some of the same features you will find in apps like Tinder and Bumble. But where it truly stands out as a dating app is that you can put more on your profile, like your political leanings and other personal preferences.
Of course, that feature can be a double-edged sword. But it’s also an awesome feature if you are looking for a way to screen potential matches more stringently.
Making sense of online dating
The world of online dating can be equal parts thrilling and messy. And while there is no best dating site or app that experts will readily recommend, by no means should you undermine the value of these tools.
It can be frustrating trying to find a serious relationship when things are under the veil of anonymity.
If you want to make sense of things (and lessen your frustration), you must reframe your mindset.
And the best way to do that is to think of online dating like you’re trying to lose weight by exercising: it doesn’t matter which gym you go to. What is critical is that you’re putting in the hours and the work.
In dating, it doesn’t matter which platform you use, whether an app or a website. What is more important is that you put yourself out there and meet new people.
And that’s infinitely better than waiting for Mr. Right to come knocking at your door.