Frozen By Fear & Worry? Here’s How To Break Free.
I was laid off from my job. I have some savings, and a solid idea for a small business that I already started. Problem is I can’t stop worrying about everything, especially money and my survival. And this fear is paralyzing me. I’ve been just stuck. I need to get off my butt! Help! TC
I’m glad you are reaching out for assistance. I understand that frozen feeling, and will outline a few simple steps to help you get moving and back into constructive action.
As you read this article, refer to the “Ladder of Conscious Living” diagram, which is inspired by Steve Chander’s Mindshift Ultimate Success CD Course. Feel free to print it out and keep it handy.
Fear and Worry can paralyze us
Fear can freeze our mind and our ability to take constructive actions. As TC described, fear and worry can make us feel paralyzed or stuck. When we’re in this state, we may also have lowered confidence and self esteem. Fear tends to get us stuck on the question – what can I get? – which is desperate and usually not productive. Some people can use anger to motivate themselves into action, but unfortunately that doesn’t work for everyone. And worry is simply a waste of our imagination.
When we shift gears and move into Concern, we can take action
First, it makes a positive difference when we choose to believe and trust that we’re here for a reason – that our lives have value and purpose, and that all life is a gift to be cherished and respected. If and when we find ourselves stuck and frozen on the rungs of fear and worry, the easiest thing we can do is “shift gears” and move up the ladder into Concern, caring concern about our welfare and wellbeing. From the place of concern, it’s much easier to move and take action. Concern also shifts us from asking “what can I get?” into asking “what can I give?” – which is a productive stance. When we ask, “what can I give?”, this frees our minds to generate constructive ideas and inspires us to take life-supporting actions.
Three Steps to Freedom
If you are feeling frozen or paralyzed by fear and worry, follow these steps to break free and start moving and taking constructive and caring actions.
Look at and review the “Ladder of Conscious Living”. Trust that you are here for a reason, and that your life has value and purpose, and that all life is a gift to be cherished and respected.
Move up the ladder into Concern. Feel caring concern about your life and wellbeing. Think of any small steps you can take to support your wellbeing and progress in your current situation. If it helps, also ask, “What can I give?” On paper or electronically, write a log of 2-5 actions you can take today to support your movement forward. And begin taking them. Write in your log daily, writing 2-5 actions you can take each day, and do this for at least 32 days. If it helps, do this exercise with a friend or loved one, and share your lists with each other once a week.
Continue to explore and practice the higher rungs on the ladder. Also, notice the difference between ‘trying’ and ‘committing’ to your wellbeing. Notice the difference between neutral observation without judgment vs. reacting to things as good or bad, or right and wrong. And if you find yourself moving down into fear or worry, picture yourself climbing up the ladder to Concern, and take caring actions that support your welfare.
This Ladder of Conscious Living reminds me of a painting I’ve seen of Jacob’s Ladder, with its ascending and descending angels. My view of this is that we are ALL the ascending and descending angels, in constant motion on the ladder of life – evolving and succeeding in our life’s purpose as we ascend or climb up the ladder, and then descending or going back down the ladder with our new empowered and caring awareness to help others learn how do the same in their own lives. Ascending to evolve, descending to serve, ascending to evolve, descending to serve. Helping yourself and helping others.
And so, dear TC and all my readers, now that you are aware of this Ladder of Conscious Living, you have the choice to live more consciously and with more self responsibility. When you’re in a safe state of operation, consider showing others how to do the same climb from frozen fear to concerned and caring action. May we all become pro’s at living successfully, taking concerned and caring actions that support our wellbeing and the wellbeing of all life.
“The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.” – Gordon B. Hinkley
“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” – Rabindranath Tagore
“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” – Barack Obama
From the heart,
your Life Coach Maddisen
Copyright 2013 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.