You are better than that and are in full control of your love life and don’t need an overly commercialized holiday to influence your emotional state.

If you are legitimately frustrated with your dating life and are truly ready for a relationship, you and I (or any other resource) can have a few sessions together and get you right on track.

However, reacting to a holiday that has become a billboard for Kay Jewelers, See’s Candies, and 1-800-FLOWERS is a waste of your time. Valentine’s day is not a litmus test on who has a special date and who doesn’t

Let’s get this straight, the actual Saint Valentine had NOTHING to do with romance. He was a Catholic priest who was martyred by Roman soldiers after he stood up for the rights of Christian prisoners and refused to renounce his faith. It wasn’t until the 14th century that the English changed the Feast of Valentine into a festival of romance. Fast forward to 2012; it has become the second most profitable day for personal greeting card sales.

If this day was REALLY going to be a day that celebrated St. Valentine’s radical act of LOVE (platonic or romantic), we would be in the streets celebrating our very own extraordinary acts of love. We all know there is plenty of suffering happening right outside our front doors that could use a big dose of our compassion, our empathy, and our love. However, this Hallmark holiday has relegated our hearts to our wallets, with expressions of love downsized into chocolate roses and 8:00 dinner reservations.

Don’t get me wrong, I have dumped a paycheck or four into concocting a romantic wonderland for my lady on the big V-Day. It is certainly exciting, romantic, and demands creativity. But, shouldn’t I be bringing that passion to our relationship the whole year? I say all this to point out the absurdity of the day and why there is no need to allow it to comment on your relationship status. Don’t take the bait.

If you really want to be a part of a love fest, then get out this Feb 14th and volunteer for your favorite charity. You will be full of zest and passion, spreading love to a world that could use your embrace, and releasing all kinds of good chemicals inside of you; which will in turn: exude an attraction level that is off the charts. You might even meet the love of your life doing it.

However, what you will NOT do is allow a franchised holiday to rob you of your own happiness and make you feel left out. Again, action is key here. If you are over being single, then allow this day to be a NYE for your love life (complete with resolutions). Write down the TOP 10 things you can do to manifest a healthy relationship before V-Day 2013. Take thorough inventory, a good look in the mirror, and gain clarity into what kind of relationship you want to attract. Then…take ACTION. Let Hallmark worry about their sales at no expense to your heart.

Your love is greater than one day, one card, and one rose. Know it well, spread it wisely and abundantly, and make the real St. Valentine proud. Not only will you help add light and compassion to this world, you just might fall in love while doing it.

Seize the date,

Christian