I’m fairly certain that we’ve all encountered situations that trigger feelings of being included or excluded from groups whether its how many invitations your kid got to the parties of other kids in their class, going to lunch with your office pals, or catching a drink after school with your classmates. The perception of being “out” has the potential to dampen our spirits and affect our productivity or being “in” can feed our egos and give us a false sense of importance.
If you find yourself with those left out feelings of inferiority and think you don’t belong to the cool club, think again. Play with some of these possible scenarios and you may find you’ve shifted not only your experience in the moment but gained some strength in defining yourself by what’s on the inside and not by what’s taking place on the outside.
• Pick me Ups: If the aroma of those coffees everyone else is drinking is driving you crazy and the foamy goodness with heart shaped cinnamon is reminding you of not being asked to the prom, take the opportunity to acknowledge yourself and what you bring to the party. You were chosen to be a part of the project for a reason, so own it! It may be just the perfect moment to strike up that conversation with the Director because she is taking a moment to chill. Be your biggest fan and you’re certain to enjoy your chai tea as well as be noticed as someone with a great attitude.
• Thanks a latte: Noticing what other people are doing that you admire and expressing appreciation creates an atmosphere that supports good will and fosters creativity. The ability to praise others is a super power and inspires people to focus on what’s going on that’s right. Be a gratitude Super Hero.
• Add a shot: While the others are hooked up to their caffeine distribution devices you may find an opportunity to be on top of things and keep the energy going. Staying alert, involved, and enthusiastic about what’s in front of you is a major contribution to any project and opportunities will appear if you stay aware.
• Half caff with a twist: We’ve all heard the cup half full half empty approach and I’m all about seeing abundance over lack, but if you find yourself seeing the cup half full, think about what you can fill the other half up with. On set and in life there are countless opportunities to add a new flavor or perspective to a situation so let your imagination guide you and you may discover new talents and skills you didn’t know you had.
See you on set!
P.S. Tall double breva latte is my drink of choice if you were wondering and if you bring me one on set we may just work together on the next one!