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Maddisen K. Krown, M.A. is a Life Coach, Columnist, and Speaker who works with individuals and groups throughout the U.S. and the world. She supports the wholeness and well being of her clients, guiding them into the fuller purpose and quality of life that calls them.Â

Maddisen holds a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica, and is a graduate of the ICF accredited Coach for Life program. She also holds a B.S. in English/Technical Writing & Computer Science. In addition to the NoHo Arts District News, Maddisen writes for The Huffington Post. Based in Los Angeles, she donates a substantial amount of her time in service as a counseling facilitator in her community. Contact her at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. and visit her website at www.maddisenkrown.com 

Sunday, 28 September 2014 21:46

Do the Mental Relief Two-Step

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Dear Readers:
Overwhelm is a major cause of stress for many of my clients.  So many thoughts, too much to do, in too little time, and with everything feeling like a priority.  Years ago, when I was having an overwhelm attack, I reached out to one of my mentors who shared this extremely simple and miraculous cure for overwhelm.  I call it the Mental Relief Two-Step, because it’s easy and almost as fun as learning the two-step!  

Mental Relief Two-Step Exercise

Step 1: List Everything

Grab a pad and pencil (or your tablet or PC) and list EVERYTHING that is on your mind right now – EVERYTHING. That includes worries, fears, to-do’s, errands, appointments – everything!

For example:
•    Update and format resume
•    I feel fat
•    Submit myself to at least 5 agents this week
•    I want kids so bad. Is he ever going to pop the question?  
•    Update my LinkedIn profile and social networks
•    Pick up clothes at dry cleaner
•    Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged
•    Lay out my calendar for the week

Step 2: Prioritize the List

Prioritize the entire list in order of importance, numbering each item, with 1 being the most important and so on.

For example:
1.    Lay out my calendar for the week
2.    Update and format resume
3.    Update my LinkedIn profile and social networks
4.    Pick up clothes at dry cleaner
5.    Submit myself to at least 5 agents this week
6.    I want kids so bad. Is he ever going to pop the question?  
7.    I feel fat
8.    Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged

Enjoy the Mental Relief Two-Step!
Just try this!  Believe me; it is very likely you will feel relief just by listing everything on your mind.  Also, in prioritizing your worries, you might find yourself laughing as your mind gets how ridiculous that is and releases them.  And there’s a good chance you’ll get more done with more peace of mind!

Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.” – Brian Tracy

The punishment of every disordered mind is its own disorder.” – Augustine of Hippo, Confessions

 “If you want to have order in the commonwealth, you first have to have order in the individual soul.” – Russell Kirk

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” – Dalai Lama

From the heart,
your Life Coach Maddisen


Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Tuesday, 26 August 2014 06:08

How to Keep Up with Change and Stay Positive!

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Dear Maddisen,
Everything is changing faster than ever, and I’m not sure how to keep up, especially with my thinking.  It’s like my ideas about wanting good things in life to be permanent and not change too much are being challenged now.  How do I keep up with the changes and think positively about them? Thanks, MHT

Dear MHT,
Great question!  I too am definitely noticing the rapid changes around me, in technology and science, cultural trends, in people’s behaviors – in just about everything!  You are ‘spot on’ with your observation that our thoughts must evolve if we are to keep up in positive ways with this rapid evolution of our world.  

There is a book that speaks exactly to what you are dealing with, and I recommend you move this book to the top of your reading list.  It is called, “Do You Quantum Think?” by Dianne Collins.

The description of the book explains it all: “The world is changing at a dizzying pace. We’re all looking for new ways of thinking that can bring about real solutions to modern problems, from the pursuit of inner serenity to solving world conflicts. In Do You Quantum Think?, author Dianne Collins shares her ingenious discovery that reveals a critical missing link to make sense of our changing times.  Her discovery provides us with the understanding and methodology to rise above problems of today by laying the foundation for an entirely new way to think.” You can purchase the book on Amazon. Also, here is the link to her website: http://diannecollins.com/

This book has greatly helped me to understand the why and how of change and the state of rapid evolution we are in. As a result, I am definitely feeling more positive and able to accept, and even enjoy, the changes as I experience them in my life and witness them with others.  Dianne also offers a series of simple yet profound principles and practices to support her teachings.  Plus, I love staying aware of and practicing Gandhi's wise advice to BE the change I wish to see in the world.

And so MHT and all of my readers, I hope this leads you to the answers you are seeking and supports your desired path of keeping up with and staying positive with the changes in your life.

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw

When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 “If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.” – Gail Sheehy

Your Life Coach,
Maddisen

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Dear Maddisen,
I’m six months pregnant with my first child.  My husband and I are very happy and excited about having a baby. We understand it’s a big responsibility.  Do you have any advice for us on raising a happy child?  Thanks, SC

Dear SC,
Thanks for reaching out to me. Congrats on your pregnancy!  I have a great source of information to share with you and your husband, which should exactly address and directly support you in creating an emotionally healthy and happy family.

About 2 years ago, I had the great pleasure of meeting Dr. Gerald and Deborah Newmark at an event hosted by a hospice group here in Los Angeles. That meeting with the Newmarks changed my life, because it exposed me to one of the most powerful yet simple methods for raising emotionally healthy children, and I made two new life-long friends!  Gerald and his wife Deborah are the founders of the non-profit organization – The Children’s Project.

The Five Critical Needs of Children (and Parents)

Dr. Newmark’s book, “How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children”, is a practical resource that enables parents and teachers to create emotionally healthy environments for kids and themselves. 

Dr. Newmark identifies five critical needs that all children have throughout their lives, and then clearly lays out the steps for meeting these needs in your own family. 

The Five Critical needs are:
1. The need to feel Respected
2. The need to feel Important
3. The need to feel Accepted
4. The need to feel Included
5. The need to feel Secure

Let’s face it! The truth is that we ALL have these 5 critical needs, at EVERY AGE.  So, this program is good for and can be applied by EVERYONE!

I highly recommend Dr. Newmark’s book!  It’s very easy to read and implement, and inexpensive.  It is available in several languages including English and Spanish. You can purchase it through their website and Amazon.

Here is the link to the Newmark's website, which is chock full of educational and useful information. http://emotionallyhealthychildren.org/

Dr. Newmark says, “Emotional health provides the foundation for success at school and in life. I believe that one of the most serious and under-recognized problems facing our nation today is the failure to meet the emotional needs of our children. These needs are neglected at home and at school. This neglect, which I call “the missing agenda,” jeopardizes the future of our children and our society. "How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children" was written to raise public consciousness regarding the problem and to provide a practical resource to enable parents, teachers and childcare providers to do something about it.”

“This is a book that parents – especially new parents – should have by their bedside.” – Roy W. Menninger, M.D., Menninger Foundation

Through The Children’s Project, Gerald and Deborah continue to successfully dedicate their lives to work for the improvement of the emotional health of children, parents, families, schools and cities throughout the world.  Thank you Gerald and Deborah for this divinely inspired legacy!

And so dear SC, and all my readers, I hope this provides a clear solution to the question of how to raise emotionally healthy children in today’s world!  You have my happiest and healthiest wishes. 

Your Life Coach,
Maddisen

 

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

 

 

 

Dear Readers,
Are you aware of your power to create the life that serves your greatest good, and the greatest good of all life, but not yet fully expressing and using it to have the success you desire in every area of your life?

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