I challenge you to take charge of your health and wellness the moment you read this article. I know, I know, you're thinking this is yet another New Year's resolution article regarding fitness and losing weight and getting you excited about something you'll do for about 3 weeks or so, and then life starts getting in the way, you'll lose your momentum, and pretty soon it's the next New Year and you're making the same resolution to get in shape and lose weight.
“You know…you are not getting any younger and when you have kids, you will want all your youthful energy. It might be time to settle down.”
“Why won’t he just ask you? It has been over a year, you know.”
“Maybe you should move back home. I am sure we can set you up with a special someone.”
“So when is the big day when I can officially say I am a grandparent?”
These are just some of the fine questions you might be getting this holiday season. Aunts, uncles, moms & dads (ok, maybe not dads), cousins, family friends, old high school pals…they will all inevitably feel that they have been sent by the Marital & Family Fairy (MF2) to guide you out of your torturous single life (which you might be very well enjoying) and gently push your novice wings to the glorious kingdom of holy matrimony and child bearing.
It is mostly out of love, and a feeling that because of their experience, they truly know what is best for you. God forbid an investment into the single/dating life should be part of any equation that will lead to your happiness. One cannot be complete without marriage and family, right?
Let me say right now that this is not an article about glorifying singledom or bashing the marriage/family life like it is solitary confinement at San Quinton. Rather, this article is about RUNNING YOUR OWN RACE.
During these holidays you might have every person who has ever laced on the relationship Nike’s feel the need to give you advice on your own pace and progress in your marathon to partnership. However, they may be looking at it like 400 meter dash since, in their experience, they knew from the first date that he/she was the one. Perhaps they married their high school sweetheart or struck gold on match.com on the first outing. Maybe they’re just miserable and don’t want to be there all alone. Whatever it may be, it is THEIR RACE, NOT YOURS.
The most important thing to remember is that YOU are taking care of you. You hopefully have a game-plan and a vision for your life and taking the necessary steps to manifest all that you desire. You are getting out of your way, staying in the moment, and knowing that each day you are embracing every opportunity this universe gives you to run your own race.
However, we can easily get off track when we start to compare our pace & progress to other runners. Trust me when I say this, NOTHING GOOD WILL EVER COME OUT OF COMPARING YOURSELF TO THEM. NOTHING. Furthermore, if you feel good in your game-plan, then nothing good will come from accepting the bombardment of advice/criticism you will hear when you go home. Reframe all that chitter chatter as just that…chitter chatter, and reaffirm that you are in good hands…your own.
If you are feeling that maybe your pace is off and are in need of a trainer of sorts, then absolutely make that a goal for 2012. Link up with a life coach, therapist, marital counselor, spiritual director, your best friend…whomever, and develop a game plan that works for you and your life goals. However, that is a process and journey you take with your trainer and/or your partner. This is not a group effort brought to you by the fine members of your adoring family and high school friends.
Remember…a marathon is 26.2 miles and demands preparation, a good mindset, and a consistent pace. So keep your pace, keep moving those feet, and don’t forget to enjoy each and every step of the way. Don’t worry about that finish line. It will take care of itself as long as you stay focused on the moment. You know my favorite mantra: The slower you go, the faster you will get there.
Happy Holidays and happy running (or should I say, pacing).
Seize the date,
I requested your favorite healthy holiday dessert recipes and here's what I have to share with everybody this Holiday Season. Enjoy in good health!
A few weeks ago I wrote a blog entitled ” 5 Reasons Why Women Have All The Power (And Don’t Even Know It)” and I received comments asking for specifics on how to flex this power. This was particularly true for the comment that women needed to “demand chivalry.”
“Definitely above 6 foot. Nothing shorter. No way.”
“She has got to like comic books.”
“He has got to read the front page of the NY Times everyday.”
“Brunette, shorter, decent chest, nice butt to hold onto.”
“He must workout, know good restaurants, and like the nightlife.”
Ok, so you got up the nerve to walk up the cute gal in Aisle 3 at Albertson’s. You notice her handling the hummus, so you chatted her up over Sabra’s latest attempt at making passable hummus, made some joke about the various pronunciations of the word, and then you popped the courageous question,
Good guys finish last. They definitely seem to in the dating world. Women say that they want a man who is a gentleman, chivalrous, humble, courteous, on-time, present and all smiles. However, there a million good guys out there with no woman on their arm, being passed up for a slew of bad boys who negate the chivalrous culture. Some weeks I feel that most of the work I do with women is steering them away from the pitfalls of the bad boy, so they can be more open and available to the good guys out there. I deal with stories of him not calling after they sleep together, him cheating on her while they were on vacation, and him just purely taking advantage of her emotionally and financially. Usually, the writing was on the wall from the beginning. It is not difficult to spot the bad boy. However, exciting and adventurous these bad boys seem, with matters of the heart, the risk is high and chances are, your time with them is limited.
Once upon a time we lived in caves. Once upon a time we were hunters and gatherers. Once upon a time we travelled in packs of 500 and roamed the land in search of food and shelter. A man could spend all day, sometime several days, hunting for game to feed his family. Hunting gratified and validated his life: he could provide for his wife and children. It was simple and straightforward. Life demanded strength, focus, and commitment.
WARNING: I will admit, the subject matter in this blog might get you a little riled up, but I want you to read it first, give it a shot, and then make judgments on the material. So, repeat after me: “I (state your name) promise to read Christian’s blog with an open mind and not judge what he is going to say for the next two pages. Even if I get upset, I will not punch the screen or call him up and cuss him out. This is just an exercise and I am going to be open to it.” Great! Let’s jump into some biology.
Women have all the power, more power than You can imagine. Since puberty, we men have made 95% of our decisions based on the wishes of the holders of the Double Y Chromosome. How we dress, act, walk, talk, move, groove, work, jerk, excel, tell, joke, laugh, compete, and conquer relates to the golden pursuit…YOU.
It's late evening, you've already ate dinner, maybe had a glass of wine, and while your watching your favorite TV show your mind starts to wander..your stomach joins in..there is something in the refrigerator with your name all over it!...COOKIES..or is is CAKES...or is it...CANDIES? Whatever bad food is trying to seduce you; it's a broken promise, a road to nowhere, don't do it! It will make you fat. Here's what you do:
Spinach is well known as the superfood that gave Popeye the Sailor Man his bulging muscles. "I am strong to the finish because I eat my spinach" was the famous cartoon character's tag line as he popped open a can whenever he needed to get out of trouble.
Music therapy for promoting wellness has received increased attention over the last few years due to the rise in the practice of integrative medicine. Two types of music activities are used in music therapy for wellness...passive and active.
Passive music includes listening to music (any type that you like personally), vibroacoustic therapy, and meditation to music. It helps to increase the activity of helper T-cells and production of interleukin-I, both important indicators of immune system recovery. It stimulates activation of the cerebral cortex
Weight Loss Products are the No. 1 type of consumer fraud in the United States. According to a report by the Federal Trade Commission, about 5 million Americans fall for these type of scams each year, some of them buying more than one item. The products include dietary supplements, nonprescription drugs, skin patches, creams, wraps, and even earrings (yes, there are earrings that are supposed to suppress appetite). The marketers typically promise substantial, rapid, no-effort weight loss without dieting or exercise....guaranteed. Why doesn't somebody stop them you ask? Because there is no official governing body over nutrtition supplements and products. That's right, it's a free for all and anybody can claim anything they want on nutirtion supplements and pills, no matter how untested or far fetched it is as long as they put the word "may" before their claims. For example; "This product may help you lose 10 pounds in one week".
It's been tossed around for years throughout the fitness industry, the notion that for every 3,500 calories you burn you'll lose a pound of fat. As a personal trainer, though, I often see people pushing through week after week of running, walking, lifting, whatever-workout designed specifically to reach that 3,500 calorie per week mark-only to weigh exactly the same when it's over. Argh, all that work and no results!
If you're stuck at your bodyweight or body fat percentage and want to break through to get better results try walking backwards on the treadmill. Yes, that's right...BACKWARDS. Start off slow, around 1-2 mph at a 2-3 incline setting and don't hold on to the rails.
So, you have a sweet tooth? Maybe you love munching on salty foods? The various kinds of foods that we crave and think about could mean that we have some emotions and feelings that we need to harness, understand, and control.
Most of us are creatures of habit. It is estimated that out of 11,000 signals we receive from our senses, our brain only consciously processes 40. Habits, good or bad, make you who you are.
Research shows that it takes 30 days to break a bad habit and/or get into a good habit. So if you've been thinking about excercising more, eating better, taking up meditation, whatever it is, it's time to create a 30 day action plan to reach your goals! Keep your goals specific (ie: don't eat late at night vs. eating better), realisitic (lose 15 lbs. this month vs. lose 100 pounds this month), and focus on one goal one month at a time. Before you know it, breaking one bad habit leads to better habits in other parts of your life.
It's cheap, it's easy, and it's like a getting a deep tissue masage. It's the Foam Roller.For something like $20 you can pick up a foam roller at a sporting good store or order online.
What it does is called Myofascial Release in your muscles. Essentially, it's a form of soft tissue therapy that is accomplished by relaxing contracted muscles, increasing circulation and lymphatic drainage, and stimulating the stretch reflex of the muscles and the overlaying fascia (soft tissue).So taking a few minutes each day and doing this self myofascial release using the foam roller can help your muscles rejuvinate and help your body as a whole function optimally.
Yawn. Yawn some more. Don't be bashful..yawn even more! Newberg and Waldman call yawning "one of the best kept secrets in neuroscience" for both relaxation and heightened cognitive awareness. It helps you stay focused, as well as more introspective and self-aware. Waldman says that studies of deliberate yawning at Moorpark College are producing surprising results. Students who yawned before taking tests raised their grade point averages; Cs moved up to Bs, and Bs to As. He also asks his "profoundly anxious" therapy clients to yawn and has found that it reduces their anxiety by a significant amount
You telegraph feelings and behaviors to others under stress that you may not be aware of. Which one of these are you? If you are outgoing and what they call a "type A" personality, you may be perceived as being: ABRASIVE, CONTROLLING, OPINIONATED If you are outgoing and a "people pleaser", you may be perceived as being: OVERLY CONFIDENT, POOR LISTENER, TALKATIVE, SELF-PROMOTING If you are introverted and a "people person", you may be perceived as being: POSSESIVE, STUBBORN, INSENSATIVE, DETACHED If you are introverted and "like to follow procedures and not make mistakes", you may be perceived as being:PERFECTIONIST, STRICT, DEFENSIVE, HARD TO PLEASE Contact me today if you 'd like to take a personalized behavior assessment and discover more about yourself, your strengths, and limitations. Jack@getfitwithWitt.com or call 818-760-3891
Are you the kind of parent who regularly chides your kids about what they eat? A new study in the June issue of the journal "Pediatrics" suggests that parents who favor a strict parenting style may actually contribute to weight gain in their own children.
After observing four parenting styles (authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and neglecting) among 872 first graders, researchers identified a correlation between obesity in children and lack of flexibility in parents.
An often overlooked health promotor and ailment reducer, Honey is more than just a great sweet taste! HONEY builds up the immunity system with antioxident and antibacterial properties.HONEY is anti-cancer as it possesses carcinogen-preventing and anti-tumor properties.HONEY is a great energy booster for performance and endurance by way of it's natural fruit sugars, and helps reduce muscle fatique. It also helps to keep your blood sugar levels constant to avoid those "crashes" during the day.HONEY has a remedy history for ailments such as cuts and burns, yeast infection, sore throats, and arthritis pain. And it works great for hangovers too by speeding up the oxidation of alcohol by the liver.So the next time you see a honey bee, give it a thumbs up (from afar) for producing one of the worlds greatest natural medicines!
Mothers..pat yourselves on the back. You've always said "Sit up Straight", and sitting up straight is indeed very important, especially as we spend more and more time in front of our computers. A slouched sitting posture not only affects your back, but your neck as well, and interupts proper breathing.
Alleviate poor circulation, sore joints, swelling and just feeling "blah" by doing some simple exercises on your next long flight. If anything, you'll entertain your fellow passengers around you.
Time to exchange that poker face for a sweaty face! Try this fun workout for a change of pace, you'll get your heart rate up, burn calories, and tone your body up. If you have a deck of cards handy you can do this workout almost anywhere. You have to be committed to doing at least half the deck solo, or the full deck if your with a workout buddy. Ok, here we go...shuffle them up.....lets workout!
Michael Phelps-the all time winner of Olympic Gold Medals needs to eat 12,000 calories per day to keep himself in optimal competition form. But how much do you really need to eat each day to maintain or lose weight?
Do you ever go the gym and see people chomping on their gum while they are seemingly having a very good intense workout? (It's the bubble snapping that erks me the most!) Are those people on to something to enhance their workout, or is chewing gym while working out dangerous?
Mmmm...ahhhh....oohhhh....more...yes....that hot cup of coffee in the morning when you need to fire up your brain and energy for a productive day is one of life's necessities for many of us. But can coffee (or in general caffeine) help to fire up our sex drive for a productive evening in bed? Lets "undress" this subject.
We all have our favorite snacks and desserts that we crave. We all over-eat, especially in front of the TV or after a long, stressful day. But too much chronic overeating and indulging can lead to weight gain, sickness, and depression. When you are getting ready to eat, ask yourself, "Why am I eating this meal?". Is it to provide energy for your workday ahead? Is it to recover after a tough workout? Is it so you have antioxidants to fight off free radicals? Is it for the fiber to help clear out the cholesterol in your body? Whatever the case, each meal and snack you eat should have meaning attached to it.