Cristina and Andrea Morara are dating experts and own Stellar Hitch, a boutique matchmaking company catering to upscale professionals that incorporates dating coaching and image consulting in their matchmaking method.
“Definitely above 6 foot. Nothing shorter. No way.”
“She has got to like comic books.”
“He has got to read the front page of the NY Times everyday.”
“Brunette, shorter, decent chest, nice butt to hold onto.”
“He must workout, know good restaurants, and like the nightlife.”
Ok, so you got up the nerve to walk up the cute gal in Aisle 3 at Albertson’s. You notice her handling the hummus, so you chatted her up over Sabra’s latest attempt at making passable hummus, made some joke about the various pronunciations of the word, and then you popped the courageous question,
Good guys finish last. They definitely seem to in the dating world. Women say that they want a man who is a gentleman, chivalrous, humble, courteous, on-time, present and all smiles. However, there a million good guys out there with no woman on their arm, being passed up for a slew of bad boys who negate the chivalrous culture. Some weeks I feel that most of the work I do with women is steering them away from the pitfalls of the bad boy, so they can be more open and available to the good guys out there. I deal with stories of him not calling after they sleep together, him cheating on her while they were on vacation, and him just purely taking advantage of her emotionally and financially. Usually, the writing was on the wall from the beginning. It is not difficult to spot the bad boy. However, exciting and adventurous these bad boys seem, with matters of the heart, the risk is high and chances are, your time with them is limited.
Once upon a time we lived in caves. Once upon a time we were hunters and gatherers. Once upon a time we travelled in packs of 500 and roamed the land in search of food and shelter. A man could spend all day, sometime several days, hunting for game to feed his family. Hunting gratified and validated his life: he could provide for his wife and children. It was simple and straightforward. Life demanded strength, focus, and commitment.
WARNING: I will admit, the subject matter in this blog might get you a little riled up, but I want you to read it first, give it a shot, and then make judgments on the material. So, repeat after me: “I (state your name) promise to read Christian’s blog with an open mind and not judge what he is going to say for the next two pages. Even if I get upset, I will not punch the screen or call him up and cuss him out. This is just an exercise and I am going to be open to it.” Great! Let’s jump into some biology.
Women have all the power, more power than You can imagine. Since puberty, we men have made 95% of our decisions based on the wishes of the holders of the Double Y Chromosome. How we dress, act, walk, talk, move, groove, work, jerk, excel, tell, joke, laugh, compete, and conquer relates to the golden pursuit…YOU.