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Saturday, 19 November 2011 00:31

Chinois Beaute Bar – My Fav for Nails and Massage

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m new to the LA area, and live in Valley Village. Wondering if you have a favorite place for nails and other beauty treatments. Thanks, MM

Dear MM,
Welcome to the neighborhood! I’m happy to share about my favorite place.

When I first moved to LA from Europe in the late 90’s, I too was looking for a good nail salon. My LA acting coach at that time, Judy Kerr, highly recommended the Chinois Beaute Bar in Studio City.  Judy raved about the owner - Tammie Ly – who is famous among celebrities for her artistry in creating natural-looking acrylics and custom blended shades of nail lacquer. Yes, Tammie creates nail colors herself! And I have found that her polishes last longer than any others I’ve used over the years.

So, I’ve been going to Tammie’s place pretty faithfully now for about 10 years, and I have only high praises – for their services and products, and for the wonderful gals who work there along with Tammie.  Tammie’s style and class are evident as soon as you step foot into her salon. She hand designs and sells gorgeous accessories too, such as jeweled belts and beaded sandals.

What’s fun too, is that she caters to a good number of female and male celebrities, so it’s not uncommon to be getting your nails done a few feet from a well know TV, Film, or Music star.

At the Chinois Beaute Bar, you can get the standard manicures and pedicures, as well as waxing, threading, shoulder massage, and facials. I’m currently a big fan of Gel Nails, and am in there every 2-3 weeks getting them done with Kelly, my favorite cosmetologist! The prices are super reasonable.

Next door, Tammie recently opened the Chateau Chinoiserie for Foot and Body Massage, and I haven’t made it in there for a massage yet, but I’ve heard very positive reviews. And her prices are great here too – also reasonable. You’ll have to confirm, but I believe she’s been offering full body deep tissue or traditional massages at $50/hour, $70 for 90 minutes, and $95 for 2 hours. She also offers Hot Stone, Foot, and Shoulder/Neck massages, and Facials.

So, MM, that’s my favorite local place. For more information, check out Tammie’s website at Or call her salons directly – for nails and waxing, call the Chinois Beaute Bar: 818-752-4347; for foot and body massage, call Chateau Chinoiserie: 818-508-9095. Remember, they are right next door to each other.

Have fun!

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Friday, 11 November 2011 07:09

What Thoughts Are You Sending Your Lover?

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Dear Maddisen,
I recently met someone. It’s still new, but I sense something special. I’m writing because honestly I’m spending most of the time when I’m not with him worrying he may not want me as much as I want him, wondering if he’s sincere about wanting a life mate, afraid he might really be a player, and so afraid that I won’t get what I want, which is him.  I don’t want to send him emails, because I’m afraid I’m doing it from a place of underlying fear or desperation. I don’t want to scare him off, but I want him to know I care. Do you know what I’m talking about? Can you help me figure this out? Thank you, WG

Dear WG,
Wow, your thoughts and questions are very clear! Thank you for being so honest and for bringing up such an important topic.

It sounds like you really care for this guy, that you sense a special connection, and that you’re very interested in spending more times together. That’s wonderful, and a great place to start. The only way to find out more about each other – is to find out more about each other!
And if it’s mutual, you’re golden.

But even if you’re not exactly sure of everything he is feeling at this point, you can still move forward if it’s what you desire. And that will be another way of finding out where he stands.

I see two things to talk about here. First, I acknowledge you wholeheartedly for being so aware of your negative thoughts, and how you are filling your mental space with negative thoughts. Second, I’d like you to think of your desires as plants in your life garden. In this case, it sounds like a key desire is that you want a life mate; and it sounds like you see this fellow as a potential life mate.

If your desire for a life mate is a plant in your sacred life garden, and you think this fellow will fill that need, then guess what, you’ve got to tend your garden and this desire with loving and caring thoughts, and loving and caring actions. And you’ve got to TRUST that this seedling will grow into a healthy and beautiful plant. Because that’s what seedlings do if you take excellent care of them – they grow and thrive.

The positive thoughts with which you fill the space around you, with which you water your garden, and which you flow to others – will nourish your desires.

Therefore, dear WG, you want to begin thinking nourishing thoughts that will support your desire for partnership with this man, which includes positive expectations of the growth and beauty of the partnership. And when you support this desire, you will stop wasting your precious time, energy, and life filling the space with doubts and fear!  This is key. Water your desires and fill the space with caring and empowering thoughts, not fear-filled and doubt-filled thoughts.

If this resonates as true for you, then get started. Sit quietly and feel into the beauty of your desire for healthy and loving partnership. Realize this is your garden, and start feeding the seedling with thoughts that will nourish and grow it.

Then, when you sit down to write your fellow an email, pretend that you’re watering him and your desire for partnership with your nourishing thoughts. Take a risk, share with him by filling the space with your positive thoughts and words. Perhaps you can write something simple, like how you are enjoying his company, and how you look forward to your next date. Don't overwater, don't underwater your garden!

Be positive, stay present in the now, don’t get overly attached to the future result, and savor the time it takes to watch your garden grow. I’m confident you can do this! May the garden of your heartfelt life desires flourish in health, beauty, and fulfillment.

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.


Thursday, 27 October 2011 09:36

You Have No Time for a Boyfriend?

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Dear Maddisen,

I never seem to have time for a boyfriend. Is that normal? - AC

Monday, 10 October 2011 00:29

What To Do If Your Guy Is Losing Interest

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Dear Maddisen,
I have been with my guy for 6 months and he doesn't seem interested in me any more...what can I do? Thanks, NB

Dear NB,
Thanks for your question. I see two possible reasons for your guy’s behavior, but only one answer to your question – you’ll have to talk with him about this.

Some behavioral models identify the first 3-6 months of a relationship as the “infatuation phase”. During this romantic time, we tend to see ourselves as one and the same person, focusing more on what we have in common and what we agree upon. Add sex to the mix, and the intoxication may be intensified even further. Mother nature is at the wheel, while we frolick in the trunk – hopefully having a good time!

This may vary with everyone depending on age and experience, but generally speaking, if we’re caught in that spell of infatuation, we don’t really start identifying our individual differences until after this phase. This is when we sober up and start noticing the distinct qualities and behaviors of our partner separate from our own. Although not always this simple, we either like or don’t like what we see. And all this is happening on conscious and unconscious levels. Additionally, even at this point, we may be so intent on having a partner, we may remain in denial about the qualities we don’t like, or the areas in which we’re not being fulfilled with the other person!

This is why communication, honest communication, is so very important at this point, and it’s most likely the next step you must take, NB, to clarify what’s going on and get your answer.

The first answer may be contained right there in your question. That is, it may be that your guy is not interested in you anymore, and this may be the end of the relationship. But as adults, you really should have a respectful conversation about this to find out if this is the end for him. Before you do, however, take some time to be alone and be honest with yourself about how you are feeling about him. Do you like what you’re seeing? Are you getting what you need from the relationship? Do you see a loving and fulfilling future with this man? Don’t let his seeming rejection at this point make you desperate. First determine what is true for you. Then reach out and ask for a conversation, in person and in private. If he clearly wants to end the relationship, do your best to trust that this will be in your highest good in the long run, and let go. Trust that your man is still on his way.

The other answer may be that your guy is feeling a deeper love for you, perhaps more than he expected, and he may be scared to take it to the next step, which is why he’s pulling back and acting like he’s not interested in you anymore. And if this is the case, the only way for you to know, NB, is to request an in person and private conversation with him. Either way, you may have to be the one to initiate a conversation, so that you can get clarity, and know if you need to move on alone or move forward together. If he wants to move forward together as a couple, you’ll need to talk about how that will look.

NB, be loving and compassionate with yourself through this. Do your best to be self-respectful, respectful of him, and open minded when you two talk. Practice self forgiveness as needed. Here are the links to my 2-part blog on self forgiveness. Self Forgiveness Part 1:
Self Forgiveness Part 2:

Remember, we’re here to love, and healthy love between humans requires healthy communication.

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.


Tuesday, 27 September 2011 00:25

How to Cure Bad Breath

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Dear Maddisen,
I started dating a guy who I really like, and we’ve only kissed once or twice so far. Good thing, because I was babysitting with my young niece last weekend, and she told me I have bad breath. I had no idea. But thank goodness for the honesty of kids, right? I use mouth wash, but guess it’s not working. Any tips? I don’t want to lose this great guy. Thanks, LL

Dear LL,
Thanks for sharing your story. And yes, I guess we can appreciate that your niece, in her honest innocence, told you something that may be a lifesaver when it comes to those intimate kisses with your new boyfriend. I have a recommendation for a tool you can use, and it’s something I use myself.

It’s called a “Tongue Scraper”! I know, it may sound a bit kooky, but this really works. There’s much written about tongue scraping on the web, so you can read about it yourself too.

White film on the top of the tongue indicates bacteria. Scraping the tongue removes the film of bacteria from the surface of the tongue, which enhances the functioning of taste buds, and helps reduce halitosis, or bad breath. It also provides a clean environment for good dental hygiene.

A study done by Anne Bosy, the Breath Doc, found that most people with bad breath do not have gum disease. Instead, it was found that sulphur-producing bacteria live at the back of the tongue, bedding down under plaque and mucous. These bacteria are a source of halitosis. Before a date, Anne recommends flossing and scraping one’s tongue. Check out her website:

Ordinary tooth bushing won’t remove these bacteria. Some dentists teach patients to brush their tongues with their toothbrushes, but this is not ideal because a moist toothbrush may continue to hold bacteria. A tongue scraper is a great alternative and it’s so easy to do.

Yogis have been scraping their tongues for hundreds of years. The ancient science of Ayurveda teaches that tongue cleaning activates the salivary glands, which aids in our digestion, and revitalizes the throat. When people complain of having a frequent sore throat, Ayurvedic doctors advise them to clean their tongues. Sinus infections can also benefit from cleaning the tongue.

Tongue scrapers, also called tongue cleaners, are made from gold, silver, copper, tin, brass, stainless steel, and plastic. Stick out your tongue. Take the two ends of the tongue scraper in your hand, and reach the arch of it to the back of the tongue. Scrape forward several times, rinsing the scraper between scrapings. Rinse out the mouth once you are done. You can buy tongue scrapers in drug stores, online, on, etc. They’re very inexpensive. Here’s a link to one on Amazon that gets positive reviews:

And so LL, I hope this helps you clean away the bad breath! Get your tongue scraper, and follow the directions. And before your next date, be sure to floss and scrape your tongue. If you have mouth wash left, you could always gargle with a small amount after the other two steps!

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.


Dear Maddisen,
Your bio says you earned a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology. What is that? I don’t even have a bachelor’s degree, but I’d still like to know. I’m a midlifer who wants to do more than just read books and dream about all that I still want to do in my life. Thanks, BT

Dear BT,
Great question, and I’m more than happy to answer. I graduated with a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica, in Santa Monica, California. USM provided me with the best and most valuable formal education I have had in my life thus far.

My yearning to get more focused and productive doing meaningful work was kick-started several years ago, while I struggled with my own midlife crisis, which involved a dying marriage and a relentless desire to enhance and expand my 20 year writing career.

A friend of mine invited me to an ‘information evening’ at USM, and before I left that night, I knew I would apply. My sense was that this program was truly educational, and that the environment would support real experiential learning, healing, and growth. And that it did. As it turned out, my USM education was above and beyond anything I could have imagined.

What I also love about the program is that it’s possible for people who have not completed an undergraduate degree to still take this two year training for a certificate of completion instead of a Master’s degree. It’s something the USM Admissions folks could explain.

The information that was taught, the tools I learned to use, and the growth I experienced – have enabled me to live my life with a significantly higher degree of passion, purpose, and success that definitely exceeds where I was before I entered the program. The learning and growth continue since I graduated, and in a more accelerated and rewarding way.

To BT and my other readers, if you’re curious, I encourage you to review the USM website, and then contact them directly with questions.

About USM
As they share on the website: “For over 30 years, the University of Santa Monica, the Worldwide Center for the Study and Practice of Spiritual Psychology®, has been diligently and lovingly providing innovative Master's Degree Programs in Spiritual Psychology. The University's Soul-Centered experiential educational paradigm evokes in students their own answers to three essential questions resulting in more purposeful and fulfilling lives. Each individual student is recognized, honored, and respected for the Essence of who they truly are.“

The three essential questions are:

  • Who Am I?
  • What is My Purpose?
  • How Can I Make a Meaningful Contribution?


Grads Living Their Answers
Also from the site: “One knows the true nature of the tree by the fruit it produces. And so, for us at the University of Santa Monica, our graduates, their lives, relationships, careers, and their contributions in the world are the true measures and celebrations of how a University of Santa Monica education can transform a human life. We invite you to see their stories on our Web site and, ideally, connect with them in person. To experience the miracle of our graduates is to experience the miracle of the University of Santa Monica.”

And so BT, if you’re truly looking for an experiential program that directly supports you in living what you have previously only dreamed about, check out USM. For us as midlifers and for people of any age, this is a program that fosters purposeful living and authentic fulfillment. As Mary Oliver asks, “Listen, are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?” No more breathing just a little, no more living just a little – stand up and live your fullness. Give the gifts you came here to give! We need you! Begin now!

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Dear Maddisen,
I’m in midlife, and I want to live with more passion and fulfillment. I know my skills, my likes, my dislikes, but I’m just not being focused or disciplined enough. Honestly, it’s easy for me to get sidetracked. Do you have any advice or favorite books that might help me stay on track with my life purpose? Thanks, DW

Dear DW,
Thank you for your question. This is a very relevant topic, and I’m happy to share my thoughts and insights, along with the titles of a few books.

I believe it’s normal to get sidetracked or diverted sometimes as we walk through life. However, as I’ve entered midlife, I now feel a greater than ever sense of urgency and passion to be more on track and devoted in thought, word, and action to my life purpose and specifically my life purpose work.

Being clear on your life purpose and setting clear intentions are the keys to staying devoted, focused, and action oriented in life, along with loving and nourishing self care, self respect, and a healthy support system. A healthy support system may include friends, loved ones, colleagues, specialty groups, a life coach, mentors, classes, etc.

Books on Life Purpose
Here are a few books that might be helpful and support your goals.

Life on Purpose: Six Passages to an inspired Life, by Brad Swift
“Does the road to self-discovery really have to be so long and torturous? Not at all!  Cut decades off the process and take a major shortcut on the road to clarifying your true purpose, says Dr. Brad Swift: Just follow the six steps, or "passages," that he outlines-and infuse purpose into every aspect of your life. In 1996, Brad Swift founded the Life on Purpose Institute, an organization dedicated to helping people clarify and live true to their life purposes. His vision: The possibility of all people living purposeful, passionate, playful lives of service, and mindful abundance balanced with simplicity.”

Get-It-Done Guy's 9 Steps to Work Less and Do More, by Stever Robbins
“If you're serious about becoming successful, you not only need clarity around your long-term purpose, vision, and goals, but you need to organize your time, space, and attention to make success possible. This book will show you how to make sure all your efforts count, so every moment you choose to work brings you closer to your dreams. Stever's unique style makes this book not only highly practical, but a fun, engaging read.”—Jack Canfield

My Life: A Workbook, by Lyzz Yamazaki
“A journey of self discovery for anyone who wants to know more about themselves, this workbook consists of 254 questions that will provide invaluable insight into your true self, your goals, and your fears. The experience of answering the questions is one of liberation, discovery and honesty. Covering areas of your life from Love, this book will help move all aspects of your life into focus, leaving you with a clear vision of who you are, who you want to be, and an understanding of the path to get there.”

Meditation and Self Forgiveness
I have also found that it is extremely supportive, calming, and clarifying for me to meditate in the mornings. It’s an uplifting way to start the day with a clean slate.

If you’d like to learn how to meditate, see my blog on Meditation Made Easy:

And I practice self forgiveness whenever my mind gets critical of myself or others. Read the exact steps for Self Forgiveness in my 2-part blog.
Self Forgiveness Part 1:
Self forgiveness Part 2:

As Robert Byrne so aptly states, “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.” Life is work of art, and achieving our individual life purposes seems to blossom forth from a place of heartfelt desires, clear intentions, respect for all life, and trust in the rich and unique ways our lives unfold each and every day. And so DW, set clear intentions, practice self forgiveness as needed, and may your devoted actions fill you with passion and fulfillment.

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Thursday, 18 August 2011 01:39

Midlife – The Age of Miracles

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m a woman in midlife, and I could use some support and encouragement. Can you recommend any books about midlife – books that may inspire and empower me? Thanks, AMW

Dear AMW,
Thanks for your question. There are two I’m reading now that I’d be happy to talk about.  What I’m discovering as I travel through midlife myself, is that there are more and more supportive books coming out on the topic, so I’m pretty certain my list will grow. This in itself is very encouraging. However, I guess we shouldn’t be too surprised – after all, we are the largest demographic!

Books on Midlife for Women and Men

The two books I’m currently reading on midlife are written for women. I’ve just started looking into books on midlife specifically for men, so will not have too much to offer in this week’s blog for my male readers.  I have found that reading books by and for men have helped me to better understand them; so, for the men reading this blog, you might gather some useful information and insights by reading one or more of these books about women.  And if you know of good midlife resources for men, please feel free to share them in the ‘Comments’ section below.

Books for Women in Midlife

The Age of Miracles – Embracing the New Midlife
This is written by Marianne Williamson, who is an internationally acclaimed lecturer and the best-selling author of “A Return to Love”, “The Healing of America”, “A Woman’s Worth”, “Illuminata”, and other works. Some may know her through her connection to a Course in Miracles.

The purpose of this book is to ‘psychologically and spiritually reframe the transition [midlife] so that it leads to a wonderful sense of joy and awakening.’ And as Marianne so powerfully shares, “Midlife is not a crisis; it’s a time of rebirth.” My sentiments exactly! When my friend first gave me this book, I put it aside for a few weeks and got busy with other things. Then one morning, I picked it up, just planning to leaf through at a high level, and I was so struck by the power of Marianne’s succinct wisdom, that I could not put it down. I felt like she was describing me and exactly what I was going through and feeling and thinking! And she weaves in the most beautiful prayers of strength and inspiration all throughout the book. This is a must read for women in midlife!  Very inspiring, very empowering!

Fortytude – Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life through the 40’s, 50’s, and Beyond
This is written by Sarah Brokaw, a licensed therapist with a practice in Beverly Hill, CA. I’m just getting into this book.  ‘In her practice as a licensed therapist and through discussion groups all across the country, Sarah Brokaw has discovered that the women who navigate midlife most smoothly--who go on to prosper and to enjoy the best years of their lives--are those who foster five Core Values in themselves. In Fortytude, she shows how any woman can nourish these qualities in herself, and evolve and thrive. The five Core Values are: Grace--when a woman lives with integrity, capitalizing on her own strengths while admiring the strengths of others. Connectedness--experiencing satisfaction in connections with others. Accomplishment--the sense of realizing goals and getting things done--which is necessary in today's world, when women are expected to cram 48 hours of living into every 24-hour day. Adventure--a willingness to seek challenges outside the normal comfort zone. Spirituality--a personal approach to religion, and an understanding that life has a meaning beyond the day-to-day details. In Brokaw's reassuring voice and through the stories of incredible women from all walks of life, readers can learn how they, too, can embrace and fully enjoy their forties, fifties, and beyond.’

The Wisdom of Menopause (2 editions: Oct 2006 & Revised Jan 2012)
This is written by Christiane Northrup, M.D., who is author of the New York Times Bestseller “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”, and several others.  Dr. Northrup trained at Dartmouth Medical School and Tufts New England Medical Center before cofounding the Women to Women health care center in Yarmouth, ME.

This book is full of wisdom, medical information, personal experiences, case histories, and an excellent health resource for women going through the menopause years.  In this book, ‘Dr. Northrup once again challenges convention. The change is not simply a collection of physical problems to be fixed – whether with hormones or herbs – but a mind-body revolution that brings the greatest opportunity for growth since adolescence.’ Hallelujah! If you get it, you might get the latest edition for the most up-to-date information. This is worth having on your shelf, and definitely inspiring, educational, and empowering!

It’s Time to Feel Inspired, not Expired!

Dear AMW, and my other readers, check out these books to ignite the inspiration and empowerment you already have inside of you. I close with one of the lovely quotes in Marianne’s book: “Dear God, As I age, make me ever more the person You would have me be. For I would know the joy of life before my days are done…”  Here’s to our age of miracles!

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.


Tuesday, 09 August 2011 05:28

The Best Skincare for Midlife & Beyond

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m overwhelmed by all the skin care products on the market. I’m in my 50’s and at my age, I really need products that make a positive difference. I’m curious to know what you use. Would you share? Thanks, SH

Dear SH,
I understand your overwhelm, and would be happy to share about my favorite skin care products.

I’ll start by saying that I believe there are many excellent skin care products available on the market today, from inexpensive to very expensive ones. Even the more common drug store brands are offering products with effective ingredients at affordable prices.

For several years, I’ve been using the “Skin Actives Scientific” line of skin care products, also known as ‘Skinactives’ or ‘SAS’. I appreciate the quality and effectiveness of this line, and how there are products for women and men of all ages.

Skin Actives Scientific was founded in 2005 by Dr. Hannah Sivak, who did her doctorate research at the Institute for Biochemical Research in Buenos Aires, directed by Nobel Laureate Dr. L.F. Leloir. Dr. Sivak was Professor of Biochemistry and Molecular Biology at Michigan State University and Research Fellow at the Universities of York and Sheffield, United Kingdom.

In creating SAS, one of Hannah’s main goals has been to provide customers with the best skin care ‘actives’ (ingredients) in the world at affordable prices. And she continues to do this. One reason her products are so affordable is because she doesn’t waste money on costly packaging. SAS is also an eBay power seller.

SAS Customized Skin Care
Here are some of the things I love about Skinactives:

Easy to navigate and educational website
The SAS website is easy to navigate and chock full of educational information about skin care and ingredients. Dr. Sivak provides clear and thorough explanations of all those mystery ingredients we see listed on product labels, such as Resveratrol, DMAE, Keratinocyte Growth Factor (KGF), and many more!  If you want to learn about what you’re putting on your skin, this is the place to go. Website:

Ready-made or mix-your-own
From the SAS website, you can order ready-made products or you can actually select individual actives (ingredients) and mix your own!

Retail brand comparison table
Get this – there’s even a table that lists popular brand skin care products and their ingredients and suggests the equivalent SAS ready-mades or how you can make them yourself with SAS actives!

For the novice or expert
On the Home page, you can select a ‘Novice’ link to get assistance in selecting products, or go to the ‘Expert’ link and put together the actives of your choice.

SAS community forum, reviews, and blog
The community forum is loaded with useful and helpful reviews, questions & answers, and suggestions posted by the many women and men who use SAS products, including skin care recipes! Plus Dr. Sivak interacts in the forums and with her own blog.

Special skin needs and issues
You can search by category on the website; for example, the ‘Need/Issue’ category link helps you find products for anti-aging, acne, eczema, rosacea, stretch marks, scarring, cellulite, hyperpigmentation, etc., or you can search by age range, gender, skin type, body part, etc.

Maddisen’s Current Favorites
I prefer the SAS ready-made products, although I do mix some of my own. But the ready-mades are so affordable; I really don’t mind having someone else do the mixing!
Here are some of my favorites:
*Anti-Aging Cream with Resveratrol
*Collagen Serum – Let’s Make Collagen
*Lip Trio Set – Lip Collagen Serum, Liquid Rainbow, Lip Balm
*SPF 30 Advanced Protection
*Alpha-Beta Exfoliator

I cleanse and moisturize my face at least twice daily. To keep my face looking toned and healthy, I also practice Carole Maggio’s “Facercise”.

I do sometimes vary and mix different brands of products, for example, I really like washing my face with NuSkin’s ‘Creamy Cleanser’, but for just about everything else related to my face care, I see very positive results with Skinactives!  And so, dear SH and all of my readers, I hope this helps!

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Tuesday, 02 August 2011 01:31

Attracting and Managing Money

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Dear Maddisen,
I liked your blog on financial planning at midlife, and am looking into working with a planner. You also mentioned a book and I’d like to know why you recommend it. There are so many books on the subject. Thanks, CC

Dear CC,
I’m glad you found that blog to be useful. If we have the desire and will to do so, it is never too late to get on a track of improved financial awareness and health. And you’re right, there are a host of useful books on the subject of money!  I welcome readers to share their favorites below in the comments area.

The book I mentioned, “Financial Freedom in 8 Minutes a Day”, by psychologists Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick, is one of my favorites because it provides concrete steps and a path for facing, organizing, and growing money. It’s not only a series of inspiring fables and stories, or just a book of affirmations, or too complex to follow. I reached for this book after my divorce when I was on my own financially and dealing with very real concerns and fears about my financial future. My well read copy is dog-eared, highlighted, notated, and coming apart at the seams!

Because it was published in 1994, some of the manual methods for recording finances may be outdated, but it’s easy to substitute those methods with today’s automated programs. I’ve heard the authors plan to update the book, but I don’t know when. Bottom line, I’ve been able to use it as is. You can get the book ‘used’ through the independent vendors on at prices ranging from 11¢ - $4.00.
The book is divided into three major sections. Part One addresses the money/mind connection. Part Two provides steps and the forms for a personal money management system. In Part 3, after we’ve set up and put into action the systems for organizing, tracking, and managing our finances, we move into a program of imprinting and manifesting our financial goals. That’s what the ‘8 minutes a day’ refers to. This is where we write down our desired financial goals, visualize them, and support it all with affirmations. Visualization is key to success with this program. Also key is that in addition to your checking and savings accounts, you’ll have a wealth building (or cash reserves) account that always gets paid into first before the others.

Many of us understand the power of thought, and how what we focus on is what we tend to attract and create. Add to that the power of visualization – of seeing what we want and running it in our minds like a movie – and we can tremendously boost our power to make our thoughts a reality. Desire + thought + visualization x repetition = Desired reality. Always with the intention for the highest good.

“Brain studies reveal that thoughts produce the same mental instructions as actions. Mental imagery [visualization] impacts many cognitive processes in the brain: motor control, attention, perception, planning, and memory. So the brain is getting trained for actual performance during visualization. It’s been found that mental practices can enhance motivation, increase confidence and self-efficacy, improve motor performance, prime your brain for success, and increase states of flow – all relevant to achieving your best life!” - Angie LeVan, Psychology Today

Visualization is a regular tool used by some of the world’s greatest athletes. Imagine what it can do for us when we visualize our financial health and wellness. For CC and all of my readers – following the program in this book will take some time and devotion, but isn’t your self care and financial security worth it?! On our journey of financial awareness and well being, may we remain lovingly persistent as we clarify our heartfelt desires, and then think them and visualize them into reality, for the highest good of all.

Your Life Coach,

Copyright 2011 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Tuesday, 26 July 2011 00:24

The Best Yoga for Midlife & Beyond

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m in my 50’s and notice I feel more stiff than I used to, and it takes me longer to recover from things like hiking and exercising. Friends have recommended yoga, but there are so many types. Can you recommend something I might try? Thanks, JS

Sunday, 17 July 2011 09:16

Bye Bye Crepe Paper Skin!

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m in my early 50’s and suddenly noticing that I have crepe paper skin! On my arms, on my legs, and probably everywhere. Is this an inevitable part of aging, or is there anything I can do to bring back my toned and firm skin? MM

Tuesday, 12 July 2011 10:22

Hard Finding a Job? Depressed?

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Dear Maddisen,
I’m having trouble finding a job, and I’m feeling depressed about it. Do you have any helpful advice for me? Thank you, JB

Monday, 11 July 2011 10:02

Say Goodbye to Belly Fat!

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Dear Maddisen,
What’s happening?! Just when I think I’ve got perimenopause under control, I look down and see my belly is growing! I hate this! I exercise, I eat healthy foods! Is this another joy of aging?! Thx, CR

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