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Monday, 09 March 2015 09:22

Breathing for Your Health & Relaxation

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Dear Maddisen,

I’ve been hearing about the importance of breathing, and how it can help me relax and be more present, centered, and even feel better. Do you have any special breathing exercises you can share here? Thanks, RO

Monday, 02 February 2015 06:23

Living Your Life Blueprint

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Dear Maddisen,
It’s a new year, and I’m feeling optimistic but with waves of discouragement and confusion about my life path.  I think I’m on track, but sometimes I get sabotaged by negative thoughts and feelings.  How can I claim my life purpose and live it with empowerment and success?  I welcome your insights, thank you, RS

Friday, 02 January 2015 10:51

Happy New Year! Design Your 2015 Life!

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Dear Readers:

It’s that pivotal time when we've just completed one year and crossed the threshold into the next: 2014 into 2015.

How was your life on planet earth throughout 2014 - on your 365 day orbit around the sun? And how would you like 2015, your next 365 day orbit on earth around the sun to be?

Monday, 17 November 2014 20:15

Great Holiday Gift Idea - Gratitude

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Dear Maddisen,
How 
can Gratitude improve my life in real and noticeable ways?  What is the value of keeping a gratitude log or journal?  -KJ

Sunday, 26 October 2014 23:54

Enjoy Creative Nails for the Holidays!

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Dear Gals and Guys,
I genuinely love this time of year, when the autumn and winter holidays approach.  So, in the spirit of the holidays, Coach Maddisen is suggesting a fun and affordable way to pamper yourself -- with a holiday manicure!  

Sunday, 28 September 2014 21:46

Do the Mental Relief Two-Step

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Dear Readers:
Overwhelm is a major cause of stress for many of my clients.  So many thoughts, too much to do, in too little time, and with everything feeling like a priority.  Years ago, when I was having an overwhelm attack, I reached out to one of my mentors who shared this extremely simple and miraculous cure for overwhelm.  I call it the Mental Relief Two-Step, because it’s easy and almost as fun as learning the two-step!  

Mental Relief Two-Step Exercise

Step 1: List Everything

Grab a pad and pencil (or your tablet or PC) and list EVERYTHING that is on your mind right now – EVERYTHING. That includes worries, fears, to-do’s, errands, appointments – everything!

For example:
•    Update and format resume
•    I feel fat
•    Submit myself to at least 5 agents this week
•    I want kids so bad. Is he ever going to pop the question?  
•    Update my LinkedIn profile and social networks
•    Pick up clothes at dry cleaner
•    Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged
•    Lay out my calendar for the week

Step 2: Prioritize the List

Prioritize the entire list in order of importance, numbering each item, with 1 being the most important and so on.

For example:
1.    Lay out my calendar for the week
2.    Update and format resume
3.    Update my LinkedIn profile and social networks
4.    Pick up clothes at dry cleaner
5.    Submit myself to at least 5 agents this week
6.    I want kids so bad. Is he ever going to pop the question?  
7.    I feel fat
8.    Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged

Enjoy the Mental Relief Two-Step!
Just try this!  Believe me; it is very likely you will feel relief just by listing everything on your mind.  Also, in prioritizing your worries, you might find yourself laughing as your mind gets how ridiculous that is and releases them.  And there’s a good chance you’ll get more done with more peace of mind!

Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.” – Brian Tracy

The punishment of every disordered mind is its own disorder.” – Augustine of Hippo, Confessions

 “If you want to have order in the commonwealth, you first have to have order in the individual soul.” – Russell Kirk

We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” – Dalai Lama

From the heart,
your Life Coach Maddisen


Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Tuesday, 26 August 2014 06:08

How to Keep Up with Change and Stay Positive!

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Dear Maddisen,
Everything is changing faster than ever, and I’m not sure how to keep up, especially with my thinking.  It’s like my ideas about wanting good things in life to be permanent and not change too much are being challenged now.  How do I keep up with the changes and think positively about them? Thanks, MHT

Dear MHT,
Great question!  I too am definitely noticing the rapid changes around me, in technology and science, cultural trends, in people’s behaviors – in just about everything!  You are ‘spot on’ with your observation that our thoughts must evolve if we are to keep up in positive ways with this rapid evolution of our world.  

There is a book that speaks exactly to what you are dealing with, and I recommend you move this book to the top of your reading list.  It is called, “Do You Quantum Think?” by Dianne Collins.

The description of the book explains it all: “The world is changing at a dizzying pace. We’re all looking for new ways of thinking that can bring about real solutions to modern problems, from the pursuit of inner serenity to solving world conflicts. In Do You Quantum Think?, author Dianne Collins shares her ingenious discovery that reveals a critical missing link to make sense of our changing times.  Her discovery provides us with the understanding and methodology to rise above problems of today by laying the foundation for an entirely new way to think.” You can purchase the book on Amazon. Also, here is the link to her website: http://diannecollins.com/

This book has greatly helped me to understand the why and how of change and the state of rapid evolution we are in. As a result, I am definitely feeling more positive and able to accept, and even enjoy, the changes as I experience them in my life and witness them with others.  Dianne also offers a series of simple yet profound principles and practices to support her teachings.  Plus, I love staying aware of and practicing Gandhi's wise advice to BE the change I wish to see in the world.

And so MHT and all of my readers, I hope this leads you to the answers you are seeking and supports your desired path of keeping up with and staying positive with the changes in your life.

Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw

When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor E. Frankl

 “If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.” – Gail Sheehy

Your Life Coach,
Maddisen

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Dear Maddisen,
I’m six months pregnant with my first child.  My husband and I are very happy and excited about having a baby. We understand it’s a big responsibility.  Do you have any advice for us on raising a happy child?  Thanks, SC

Dear SC,
Thanks for reaching out to me. Congrats on your pregnancy!  I have a great source of information to share with you and your husband, which should exactly address and directly support you in creating an emotionally healthy and happy family.

About 2 years ago, I had the great pleasure of meeting Dr. Gerald and Deborah Newmark at an event hosted by a hospice group here in Los Angeles. That meeting with the Newmarks changed my life, because it exposed me to one of the most powerful yet simple methods for raising emotionally healthy children, and I made two new life-long friends!  Gerald and his wife Deborah are the founders of the non-profit organization – The Children’s Project.

The Five Critical Needs of Children (and Parents)

Dr. Newmark’s book, “How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children”, is a practical resource that enables parents and teachers to create emotionally healthy environments for kids and themselves. 

Dr. Newmark identifies five critical needs that all children have throughout their lives, and then clearly lays out the steps for meeting these needs in your own family. 

The Five Critical needs are:
1. The need to feel Respected
2. The need to feel Important
3. The need to feel Accepted
4. The need to feel Included
5. The need to feel Secure

Let’s face it! The truth is that we ALL have these 5 critical needs, at EVERY AGE.  So, this program is good for and can be applied by EVERYONE!

I highly recommend Dr. Newmark’s book!  It’s very easy to read and implement, and inexpensive.  It is available in several languages including English and Spanish. You can purchase it through their website and Amazon.

Here is the link to the Newmark's website, which is chock full of educational and useful information. http://emotionallyhealthychildren.org/

Dr. Newmark says, “Emotional health provides the foundation for success at school and in life. I believe that one of the most serious and under-recognized problems facing our nation today is the failure to meet the emotional needs of our children. These needs are neglected at home and at school. This neglect, which I call “the missing agenda,” jeopardizes the future of our children and our society. "How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children" was written to raise public consciousness regarding the problem and to provide a practical resource to enable parents, teachers and childcare providers to do something about it.”

“This is a book that parents – especially new parents – should have by their bedside.” – Roy W. Menninger, M.D., Menninger Foundation

Through The Children’s Project, Gerald and Deborah continue to successfully dedicate their lives to work for the improvement of the emotional health of children, parents, families, schools and cities throughout the world.  Thank you Gerald and Deborah for this divinely inspired legacy!

And so dear SC, and all my readers, I hope this provides a clear solution to the question of how to raise emotionally healthy children in today’s world!  You have my happiest and healthiest wishes. 

Your Life Coach,
Maddisen

 

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

 

 

 

Dear Readers,
Are you aware of your power to create the life that serves your greatest good, and the greatest good of all life, but not yet fully expressing and using it to have the success you desire in every area of your life?

Dear Maddisen:

My mother is very ill. In my opinion, she’s been a bad mother, always depressed, angry, reactive, self-centered, critical of her kids. My siblings and I have all had issues and have needed therapy because of her. But to her defense, she raised the 4 of us alone and on her own. I’m the oldest and our father abandoned ship when I was a baby. But I have turned out really well. I used to watch my mother when I was younger, and remind myself to NOT be like her. Instead to see the glass half-full, to be even tempered, generous, kind, supportive, and grateful for life. But now I’m torn. She’s reaching out to me and my siblings now that she knows she is dying and her time is limited, and I just don’t know what to do. Does she deserve our support and kindness after what she’s done? Thanks, KM

Dear KM,
Thank you for sharing so honestly about something as deeply personal and private as this. And for asking the difficult question.

I relate to your story with your mother; although my challenging journey has been with my father, not my mother. In fact, I’ve written about my journey with my parents as they become elders needing support, in a previous blog “Becoming Our Parents’ Parents”. 

When I was a young teen, I would watch my father, especially during his reactive and unhappy times, and tell myself that I would NOT turn out like him, but that instead I would seek positive lessons from life’s experiences – the bad and the good ones – and be an even tempered, loving, supportive, optimistic role model in the world.

In fact, I think I became a ‘conscious life coach’ and counselor BECAUSE of my father and his negative role modeling. This is at the core of the Abraham-Hicks material – that our ‘contrasting’ or negative experiences are what directly turn us toward our positive, desired experiences. When I consistently compare this philosophy to my own life, I see its truth. KM, can you see how your mother’s negative ways propelled you into your positive ways?

This also takes us out of feeling like a ‘victim’ of our lives, and gives us back our power and trust in the experiences we have. This is because we stop talking about what 'life does to hurt us’ and start seeing what 'life does to help us’ lean into the light of our growth and fulfillment. Remember, much of the grandeur and beauty of the natural land we live on is formed through adverse conditions. Humans are part of this natural system, not separate, so our methods of growth may also include adversity or ‘contrasting’ experiences.

This is why I refer to my dad as an ‘unconscious life coach’, because he unconsciously helped me to become the fulfilled, whole and healthy, and self-realized person I am, and continue to become. 

And perhaps KM, your mother is your unconscious life coach. Do you think? If so, how can you use her unconscious life coaching to turn toward your positive, desired experiences? Sounds like you’ve already been doing that!

Does your mother deserve your support and kindness? Ultimately, only you can decide the answer to this. However, my answer is “Yes” your mother deserves your support and kindness. The catch – you can’t expect anything in return.

As I wrote in my blog, “Becoming Our Parents’ Parents”, I instinctively know that supporting and loving my dad as he prepares for his transition back to the non-physical realm – is the right thing to do. That I practice unconditional love is what matters to me most. When we love unconditionally, we do it without expecting or needing anything in return. And this feels deeply gratifying. This may be because at our core, we all come from the same Source energy of love.

I also have a strong sense that our unconditional love travels with those who pass on; that it’s like paying it forward to future (and past) generations! And I also believe that love and forgiveness release karma.

And so, dear KM, I hope these insights are helpful and useful for you. And that you can see the possibility that your mother has been one of your primary and most powerful life coaches, albeit an ‘unconscious’ one! Be kind, caring, patient, and loving with yourself as you navigate through this potent and tender time of helping your mother leave this world held in the loving energy from whence she came. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust, love to love.

Your Conscious Life Coach, Maddisen

The Paradoxical Commandments. by Dr. Kent M. Keith

"People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.

If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.

If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.

The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.

People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.

People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.

Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway."

 

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

 

Tuesday, 20 May 2014 12:13

Meditation – How to Begin

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Dear Maddisen: 

I’ve heard so much about how great meditation is, but there’s too much information for me to get through. I’d like to dip my toe in the water and try it. Do you meditate? Can you give me some suggestions? Thank you, RO

Monday, 21 April 2014 17:04

Outa the Trunk and into the Driver’s Seat

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Dear Maddisen:
Why do I keep ending up on dates with guys who are not what my heart desires? And who are not the right match for me at all?!  I want to change this, for the better!  CS

Dear CS,

This is a very common question and frustration.  The truth is - whether you’re a man or a woman, finding someone who feels like a healthy and happy match can be a challenge and a mystery for sure!  But I believe, and my experiences have been showing me, that we definitely have the ability to be more at cause over what we experience in life, and more specifically, what kind of people and love partners we attract.

If you are ready to get out of the trunk and into the driver’s seat in this situation, you must first get clear about what you want, and then practice thoughts, feelings, and actions that support what you want. Taking control of your own life and changing from the inside is the most empowering and effective way to experience changes on the outside.

We are Here to Love Now

Try this simple and powerful approach:

1)
List 3-5 or more things your heart desires in the area of love relationships.  
For example:
•    Date someone who is really wonderful and a great match for me
•    Find the person of my dreams
•    Have a fulfilling and loving relationship that grows into marriage and family
•    Experience lasting mutual and deep love and intimacy with my mate

2)
Next, turn these desires into Afformations.  (If you’re not sure what an Afformation is, take a few minutes and read my previous blog, and then come back to do this!)  “The Right Way to Ask and Receive – Finally!” http://nohoartsdistrict.com/ask-maddisen/item/2284-the-right-way-to-ask-and-receive-finally#.U1VHY2GPLIU
For example:
•    Why am I dating someone now who is wonderful and the perfect match for me?
•    Why are we both so happy that we’re the perfect match for each other?
•    Why is it natural and easy to find the person of my dreams?
•    Why am I having the most fulfilling and loving relationship I could imagine?
•    Why are my partner and I getting married and creating a wonderful family life together?

3)
Write your Afformations in a journal, and read and recite them aloud daily for the next 40 days. Also note in your journal any realizations you have during this process. And if any other non-empowering thoughts or beliefs arise related to this area, simply turn them into positive Afformations and add them to you daily list!  

Fact: Improve Your Thoughts and You’ll Improve Your Life

And so dear CS and all my readers – simple steps like these are your keys to fulfillment and freedom. So grab the keys and get out of the trunk and back into the driver’s seat of your precious life. Consciously choose and practice thoughts that reflect your heartfelt desires.  Trust that your desires are coming to you to tell you what is already being created for you. This is one of the main reasons we are here – to enjoy the miracle of life on this miraculous planet Earth!  

 “Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.” – Henry David Thoreau

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.” – Tony Robbins

“Believe in love. Believe in magic. Hell, believe in Santa Clause. Believe in others. Believe in yourself. Believe in your dreams. If you don't, who will?” – Jon Bon Jovi


Your Life Coach,
Maddisen

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Tuesday, 25 March 2014 19:03

The Right Way to Ask and Receive – Finally!

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Dear Maddisen,
I hear and read about using affirmations. I’ve tried them, but I usually don’t believe what I’m affirming.  How can I achieve my dreams if my head is full of conscious and unconscious thoughts that don’t support what I’m asking for? Help! JJ

Dear JJ,
I hear you loud and clear!  Positive affirmations can have value, and are intentions that help to keep our minds directed and focused on the things we want vs. what we don’t want to experience. But the problem with affirmations is that they often kick up the dust of rascally hidden beliefs that are in resistance to those affirmations, making it sometimes difficult if not impossible to achieve them.

There are many methods available for clearing conscious and unconscious false and limiting thoughts and beliefs. And this is certainly a worthwhile pursuit and activity; because when we do this, it’s like we are clearing clouds that have been blocking the sunshine and radiance of who we truly are – empowered loving souls who are here for a human experience!  From this perspective, we’re not so much healing as we are revealing our true nature.

The Book of Afformations

Recently, I came across a book that I believe offers a groundbreaking approach to this successful clearing and revealing process, through a form of questioning.  It’s called, “The Book of Afformations” by Noah St. John.  Afformations are not affirmations!  Big difference!  Read on…

According to Noah, what’s really happening when we attempt to change our lives is this:  

  1. You are living in your “current perceived reality”.
  2. What you want is to be someplace else. For example, you want to change your body, finances, love life, work, lifestyle, etc.  This is called your “new desired reality”.
  3. Between your current perceived reality and your new desired reality is what Noah calls “the belief gap”, which is the space between where you are and where you want to be.

Belief gaps may vary in size depending on the person.  “The bottom line?” says Noah, “Until you cross your individual Belief Gap for each result, outcome, or experience you want in your life, it will be very difficult for you to make the leap to reach the new life and create the new reality you desire.”

In his book, Noah teaches us how to bridge the belief gap with questions that point our minds in the direction of answers and what we want, instead of what we don’t want.

Time to Hop Across the Belief Gap

Noah explains how our minds are programmed to answer questions. They’re like computers in that way.  When you ask a question, your mind automatically begins to search for answers.  So, if we’re using self talk like this: “Why can’t I be successful with my work?”or “Why am I so broke?” – our minds give us answers to those questions – like this: “You can’t be successful because…” or “You’re so broke because…” looking for and providing all the reasons why we’re not successful and why we’re broke!  

Whereas if we ask the questions like this: “Why am I successful with my work?” or “Why am I spending less than I earn?” – our minds will look for answers and actions to support those questions – like this: “You’re so successful with your work because…” or “You’re spending less than you earn by…”.

This is a subtle but very powerful shift in how to use our minds to support what we want.  The subtle difference and power shift into the direction of experiencing our heartfelt desires comes from an empowering question, not an affirmation.

I agree with Noah, as he explains that we create our lives, minute by minute, with the statements we make to ourselves and others, and by the questions we ask ourselves.  And that by switching to and regularly asking ourselves empowering questions, we can unleash our ability to take action and express Who We Truly Are!

Reveal and Live Who You Truly Are

He provides a very simple and easy method for identifying our conscious and unconscious ‘clouding’ beliefs, followed by a specific format for asking empowering questions directed at clearing the clouds to reveal the path and experience of what we truly want.  Honestly, this approach was not all what I expected!  But it works!  I’m using it and my clients are using it successfully too!

And so dear JJ and all my readers, keep going and clear the path of your dreams!  Check out “The Book of Afformations”, by Noah St. John.   It’s worth reading and doing.  http://www.amazon.com/The-Book-Afformations-Discovering-Happiness/dp/1401944140

The power to question is the basis of all human progress.” – Indira Gandhi

For every question, there is an answer. Where everybody fails is by asking the wrong question.” – Richard Diaz

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.” – Albert Einstein

From the heart,
your Coach Maddisen

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

Thursday, 27 February 2014 01:08

Heal Yourself! Join Me and Dr. Leonard Laskow!

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Dear Readers,
Would you like to learn powerfully simple, step-by-step processes for harnessing and sending loving energies to yourself and others for healing purposes?  Would like to learn how to trace illness to its true source?  

If your answer is “Yes” – I’d like to invite you to this special workshop with Dr. Leonard Laskow on March 28-30, in Los AngelesWe've extended the early registration deadline to March 9th. There are several spaces left.

I've had the privilege of training with Dr. Laskow for several years, and am honored to use his powerfully healing processes with my clients and my self.

Workshop Event: Awakening your Healing Heart, Holoenergetics© Level I
In this hands-on experiential 3-day workshop, Dr. Laskow will guide us in four processes:

1.) Learning to ‘trace’ illness, suffering, and distress to its source – which is the apparent separation from the whole – and transforming this energy of separation into unifying love through the extraordinary Holoenergetic Tracing Process.

2.) Transpersonally aligning with patients and clients to transmit loving energies to others and self for healing purposes.

3.) Accessing Conscious Heart Space, which induces heart coherence and allows direct access to aware loving presence in the here and now.

4.) Practicing the profound Holoenergetic Forgiveness Process, which opens a portal to oneness and freedom through unconditional love.

What is Holoenergetic® Healing?
Holoenergetic® Healing involves healing with the energy of the whole, not just parts of ourselves, not just the symptoms, but healing the body and mind, and bringing the body and mind back to its natural state of wholeness and wellness.

Who is Leonard Laskow, M.D.?
Dr. Leonard Laskow, the Stanford-trained physician and researcher, is author of  “Healing with Love” and founder of the Holoenergetic® Healing Foundation.  He has studied and researched the healing power of love for more than 30 years. Dr. Laskow is a consultant in Behavioral and Energy medicine in Ashland, Oregon and gives seminars at universities, medical centers, and holistic institutes internationally. Read more about him at: www.laskow.net

Register Now!  Early registration ends on Sunday, March 9th

Workshop dates: March 28, 29, 30, 2014 / Friday, Saturday, & Sunday, 9:30am - 5:30pm

To register, contact us at wholeness@laskow.net or (541) 535-0099.

Early Registration (by March 9): $395.00. Registration (after March 9): $475.00

*Continuing Education Credits are available for RNs.

Treat yourself to 3 powerful days of awakening, empowerment, healing, and peace with Dr. Leonard Laskow!  I look forward to seeing you there!

“Throughout the workshop, Dr. Laskow gently guided me to deeper levels of awareness of Love than I had previously experienced. His kindness, gentleness, experience and wisdom created what I experienced as the most powerful experience of oneness so far.” -BW

It's one of those experiences that words can't come close to describing!” -MV

Despite the appearance of conflict, humanity is experiencing an acceleration of the awakening process. Right now it is possible to realize your true nature. To the extent that we bring ourselves into wholeness, we’ve been healed.” – Leonard Laskow, M.D.

From the heart,
your Coach Maddisen

Copyright 2014 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.

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