I’m so frustrated. I want to make a change but I’m not sure how. I want to move out of LA, but I don’t know to where and I’m not sure I can afford to do it. I feel trapped. Any coaching for me? Thanks, JS
Thanks for your honesty about what’s going on in your life. You may be feeling uncertain about the how and where, but your decision to change is loud and clear. I can relate to what you’re experiencing, and will share a solution to support your forward movement.
Make peace with where you are now.
Write down a list of all the things you appreciate about your life right now.
For example, something you appreciate about living in LA, your skills, activities, good people you know, your favorite coffee shop, anything! Even if you don’t want to be where you are anymore, make peace with it and appreciate where you are now.
Decide on what you DO NOT want in your life. Write it down.
Decide on what you DO want in your life. Write it down.
JS and all my readers, if you are not clear on what you want, get clear on the qualities and feelings you are desiring. For example, wanting to experience more space and fresh air, lower cost of living, smaller community, slower pace, four seasons, etc.
Your job at this point is to think about what you want and why you want it. Not how you’re going to get it. When we pose questions we don’t have the answers for, like how, where, when, and who, we can create drag (resistance) and slow down our forward movement.
Decide that manifestation of what you want has begun. Be open to and take action on the opportunities, ideas, and messages that support the change you desire.
Imagine what it will be like to have what you want. Let yourself day dream and talk about your new reality.
A Personal Experience
I experienced this in my past when I fell in love with someone who lived in Germany. We knew we wanted to be together, but we weren’t sure if he would move to the States or if I would move to Europe. I had a stable job with a good salary, and had no idea how I would work in Germany, especially not speaking their language.
I worked the 5 steps, and things came together much faster than I expected.
A former colleague sent me an article about a software company in Germany that was expanding internationally. I contacted the company with my resume, and heard back immediately. Not only were they looking for a software technical writer, but specifically they needed an American-English technical writer! (I have a B.S. in technical writing & computer science.) Two days after moving to Germany I had an interview with them – and was offered a job on the spot. Not only that, it turned out the company was within 30 minutes drive from the town where I had just moved to. This definitely felt like ‘providence’ to me, and has given me faith in the 5 steps, which I have used many times since.
And so JS, consider carrying out the 5 steps. Step 1 – making peace with where you are now – should help you release the frustration and trapped feeling, and support your movement forward with the next steps into the change and new quality of life that has been calling you. As Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote, “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be." Let your decision to change move you forward.
Your life coach, Maddisen
“Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do.” – Steve Jobs
“This is the beginning of anything you want.” – unknown author
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.” – William Hutchinson Murry
“Make more decisions in every day. Because a decision is a summoning of life. That's why a little chaos is good for you, because often you don't make a decision until you get yourself in a jam. And then, in the middle of the jam, you make a decision, but that decision summons Life Force. Have you ever been a place where you couldn't quite make up your mind and you just felt sort of limp? ‘Oh, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.’ And then you decided, and you felt alive again. We want you to know that you'll never get it done. So don't approach this from, ‘I gotta get on this’ because you're not ever going to get it done, anyway. And the other thing we want you to know is, you cannot get it wrong. So, make a decision. Let it flow.” – Abraham-Hicks
Copyright 2016 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.