Monday, 19 October 2015 06:17

Is Your Story Holding You Back? Stomp It!

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Dear Readers, I’ve had a few experiences lately that have jolted me into the realization that my story is what I continue to tell myself and others, AND that my story may be holding me back from the next phase of fulfillment and happiness that I realistically envision for myself.

I’ll explain what I mean.

Earlier this year, while looking at some recent photos of myself, I noticed several negative thoughts immediately coming up, about my body’s signs of aging – thoughts like… this makes me undesirable, not good enough, and not welcome in the world. Basically I was labeling myself a loser for getting older.

BUT – something in me sensed that this was a lie, that the critical voices were part of my OLD STORY that I was telling myself.

Following this instinct, I decided to pull out my portfolio of acting headshots dating back to 1990, and carefully looked at these progressions of “me” from 1990 until now, and you know what I saw? I saw a lovely, attractive woman with a beautiful smile! And I was shocked at this! I exclaimed, “Oh my gosh, I was appealing and pretty! Why didn’t I see that at the time?  Why don't I see that now? Why have I believed, all these years, that I was unattractive, a misfit, and not good enough for print or acting work?”

And that’s when I saw the lie, the lie that was part of my story – my story of never thinking I was good enough or that I belonged.

Holy crap!

I then did a scan of my story, looking for other beliefs – aka stinky LIES – that were part of my old story, and I found a few more.

The Story of You - And How To Create A New One

Long story shortened, I woke up in the middle of the night and thought of a waiting-to-be-read book sitting on my bookshelf, “The Story of You (And How To Create A New One)”, by Steve Chandler. In the morning, I blew the dust off the book, cracked it open and began reading about the old story of my life, and how to stomp it, and create the story I want!

Beginning with the first chapter, “Where Did You Learn Your Story?” through ‘til the end chapters – “How Does Your Story End?” and “Now We’ll Attempt the Impossible”, Steve tells the story of our stories and how they’ve held us back, and guides us in seeing how we we can stomp out our old stories and replace them with new stories that align with who we truly are and what life stories we truly want for ourselves.

The stories we adopt early in life can influence our self concept, how we relate to money, our health, and other behaviors & habits. Steve presents real stories and helpful wisdom with a clear goal of inspiring our own liberation from the stories that do nothing but disable and diminish us.

From Steve’s book: “The reality of how disempoweringly untrue your story is usually shows up when you have a big problem. If you, yourself, have a problem right now, big or small, you might want to bring it to mind. I’m going to show you how to solve it quickly. Because I believe that what might be stopping you from solving it is your story.”

“…The story says we’re not good enough, as is. Who we are is not enough. Isn’t this the story of you, too? Try it out. Say over and over, “Who I am is not good enough,” and see if it resonates and feels “true” about you. Then try changing the statement. Start saying now, “TRUE STORY: Who I am is more than enough!” Finish your session by saying, “That’s my new story, and my life is about making it true in this present moment.”

Steve Chandler’s books are easy to read, potent, irreverently reverent, highly relatable, and immediately applicable. And true to his form, “The Story of You” is a gem worth reading and applying immediately!!! Link to book on Amazon:

If your story is making you unhappy, stomp it, and replace it with a new story that serves the next level of your highest good fulfillment and happiness. Here’s to our updated stories!

Your Life Coach, Maddisen

“If you hear a voice within your head saying ‘I am not a painter,’ then by all means, paint…and that voice will be silenced.” - Vincent Van Gogh

“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” – Friedrich Wihelm Nietzsche

“If it’s not fun, you’re not doing it right.” – Fran Tarkenton

“The world is a spell, an enchantment, an amazement, an arabesque of such stunning rhythm and a plot so intriguing that we are drawn by its web into a state of involvement where we forget that it is a game.” – Alan Watts

Copyright 2015 Maddisen K. Krown M.A.


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