Wednesday, 15 November 2017 09:55

To Merry Christmas or Not to Merry Christmas

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Dear AC,

I love the winter holidays, starting with Thanksgiving, right up and through Valentine’s Day. The music, food, smells, gatherings, volunteerism, gifts, all of it.  I need your advice about the greeting.  Remember when President Trump said he’s bringing back Merry Christmas? I thought, I don’t want my favorite time of year to be a political thing or a stand for something other than a time of sharing good times, joy and compassion for others.  I want it to be a happy time.  I grew up saying Merry Christmas.  I work for a large corporation with people from all walks of life.  I’d like to be considerate of their feelings and beliefs too.  I’d like to sincerely extend joy. 

What should I say so that I don’t insult anyone?

-Considerate

Dear Considerate,

You’re not alone.    

The answer’s simple.  Here’s what you do.  If you think a person looks Jewish, say Happy Hanukkah, if they look black (AKA African American), say Merry Christmas and/or Happy Kwanzaa, if they look Middle Eastern, say Eid Al Adha, if they look Mexican, (to include all of South America and Puerto Rico), say Merry Christmas, if they look Caucasian (Whites mostly from Europe) also Merry Christmas, but if they look like corporate American Caucasian then you can switch back and forth between Seasons Greetings and Happy Holiday, if they look Asian say…, I don’t know, say Happy New Year or something nice, and so on and so on. 

Obviously, (I hope it’s obvious) this would be stereotyping, racist, and stupid.  Being considerate and inclusive does not mean to put people into boxes based on where “you think” they fall.  Sure, Seasons Greetings and Happy Holidays have become a mainstream form of greeting to encompass all the holidays. If that’s not you, and or you meant to say Seasons Greetings but you said Merry Christmas, or you say Seasons Greetings and some church lady says you mean Merry Christmas, it doesn’t matter.

My advice: greet people with authenticity.  If someone is offended by a pleasantry” extending, they are offended, you can’t please everyone.   Don’t dwell on it, continue to enjoy the spirit of love and acceptance the season represents. 

Merry Christmas Considerate.

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  • Comment Link Sandra H Wednesday, 15 November 2017 10:41 posted by Sandra H

    Wow! How ignorant can you be? "If they "LOOK" Jewish", If they "LOOK" Mexican. Did you know there are black Jews, white Muslims, and Asian Christians? Possibly not. Do not pigeon hole people based on their race. Happy Holidays would suffice if you think it's worth that much of a discussion.

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