Cassandra Appleby is a marketing student at San Francisco State University, set to graduate in May. Being plus size her entire life, she is passionate about promoting body positivity and empowering others to find their confidence.
There is a serious problem with how the world values Fat People.
A Fat Girl’s Guide is a series of articles aimed toward breaking negative stereotypes surrounding fatness. “Fat” is a word riddled with pain, bias, and stereotypes. Cassandra’s goal is to break these connotations into easily digestible, bite-size chunks and hopefully make you laugh along the way.
What does it mean to be a Fat Girl? Well, it means that you don’t have to be a “girl” at all. These articles represent things fellow Fat Girls, Boys, Non-Binaries, Transsexuals, and the like go through.
A Fat Girl is…
• Anyone who has been marginalized for their size (regardless of gender, sexuality, race, age, disability – you get the picture).
• Anyone who has been told they are not valuable because of their appearance.
• Anyone who is tired of following society’s rules on how we should look, act, perform, and exist in this world.
How does Cassandra navigate being a Fat Girl in one of the most vain cities in the world? Well, read on.
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It’s January and that means the universe is bombarded with New Year’s resolutions.
At this time of year, everyone’s journal looks about the same. The number one New Year’s resolution is to lose weight. Most people would agree that their idea of happiness coincides with thinness. But what if they’re not related? What if happiness coincides with happiness?
Thus, your New Year’s resolution shouldn’t be to lose weight but to be HAPPY!
Now, before you hate on me and tell me I’m everything wrong with American because I don’t think losing weight is the solution to your problems, let me tell you that couldn’t be further from the truth.
People glorify weight-loss because they see thinness as the weight where to universe will snap everything glorious into place. We’ve all fantasized about it. We think, “When I’m thin, I’ll get a promotion. I’ll fall in love and be confident. I’ll love myself. I’ll be happy.”
In truth, many thin people – you know, the people you think have it all – are still unhappy. The universe doesn’t bend to their will. Even Marilyn Monroe, one of the most beautiful women in the world, had her demons. If she were still alive, I bet she’d swap her perfect figure for a lifetime of happiness. But that’s speculation. And if she was happy with her life, then good for her. It’s not our place to judge someone’s happiness. F*ck that!
To me, happiness is personalized to your individual needs. When I dissect my desire to be thin, it’s really a euphemism for my desire to be confident and feel empowered. To feel like I am on top of the world.
I’m no stranger to weight loss resolution. I’ve been plus size my entire life. I get it. What I’m only starting to realize is that “hating yourself thin” is no way to live life on your terms. I wish I’d spent more time focusing on building happiness and confidence than hating myself and wanting to lose weight.
So let’s cut to the chase. Instead of thinking weight loss is the answer to your prayers, will your life toward happiness. Maybe you’ll lose weight in the process. Maybe not. If you’re truly happy, you won’t care what size you are so long as you’re happy with it.
This year, make the resolution to be happy!
It can be difficult to develop a healthy self-esteem when diet culture, unrealistic beauty standards, and fatphobia pressure you to hate your Fat body.