For the past few months, I have been doing something I’ve never done before: going to the gym – consistently – and I’ve learned a few things about “gyming while Fat” along the way.
- No one is looking at you, they are looking at themselves.
When I first walked into my local gym, one thing plagued my mind. “Great, these people are going to see another Fat person getting a membership and take bets on how long I will last.”
It can be daunting being the only Fat person in a gym inhabited by insanely ripped and sculpted members. Often times, it discourages people from getting memberships because they project their insecurities and view their presence as a walking target.
I’m here to tell you an amazing truth: no one cares.
Most people are too wrapped up in setting their own goals, testing their limits, and challenging their body to even care about the Fat person at the gym. After all, you have to start somewhere! Just like you, fit people started making small steps toward changing their physique and, over time, their dedication changed their physicality.
No one is looking at you because they’re wrapped up in their own sh*t! Don’t let your comfortableness (or lack thereof) deter you from setting new goals for yourself.
- Start with small goals.
On my first day of gyming, I set a goal for myself: to show up. Even if I got out of the house and drove to the gym only to sit in the car and head back home, I considered that to a be a success. I wanted to build a habit that would make me proud. Each day, I set new goals for myself that pushed my comfort and headed toward the destination I want to reach.
Everyone has their own goal and intention for going to the gym whether it be weight loss, increased endurance, overall active lifestyle, or whatever suites their fancy. Create big goals to aspire toward, but master small goals to take steps in the right direction.
- Personal Trainers will solicit their services, but you don’t have to listen.
Sales representatives are trained to suggest personal training sessions. It’s a business strategy! I used to feel like I was being singled-out for being Fat, but I realized that someone is just trying to do their job. It’s not about me.
When I looked at it objectively, I felt empowered to accept and decline the services I felt suit me best. For the first time in my life, I was honest with the trainer trying to set me up with lessons. For me, it’s not about seeing how ripped I can get in 30 days. It’s about building a habit that aligns with how I want to live my life in the future.
Say “No” to the salesmen and do what feels right with you. Be honest with them and yourself about your goals – then tell them to f*ck off if you’re not interested! You don’t need to apologize. This isn’t about them – it’s about you.
- You will feel better.
Originally, I decided to embark on this adventure because I was going through a serious depression that left me feeling immobilized. I have always been skeptical of people telling me that exercise will help fight depression. In a last ditch effort, I said, “What the hell,” and decided to try. What I didn’t expect to feel was: GREAT.
In all honesty, I have not lost weight since going to the gym but I have found a new sense of accomplishment and pride about going – and that is the goal I want to master. Whatever your motives for gyming, feel good about the small accomplishments you conquer because it will help build self-esteem. Challenge yourself with small goals and praise yourself will small accomplishments – these are the building blocks to success.
- Keep going because you want to.
There are times when I am not as consistent as I’d like, but I try to not beat myself up over it because life happens. Instead of regretting my mistakes, I try to move forward with positive intent and remind myself that I am building the life I envision.
Create a vision of what the future version of yourself looks like. Does that person go to the gym 5 days a week? Then start with 1 and work your way up! Go because it brings you joy and aligns with that vision. If you’re like me and exercise does not bring you joy, keep working at it until it does. Then, you won’t be going to the gym because you “have” to, but because you want to. Over time, the sense of pride, accomplishment, and self-esteem you develop from setting and hitting goals will snowball into positive associations with gyming. You can do it. 3