Most of the time, Fatphobia lurks under the surface and comes out in microaggressions. Other times, a jerk will come along who is quite vocal about their disdain for Fatness. Regardless of how comfortable you feel voicing these bigoted thoughts, it is time to stop being a jerk to Fat people. Here are a few examples how:
Stop giving us health advice.
You are not a f*cking doctor and we don’t want to hear your advice in our spare time when we’re going grocery shopping, as we’re eating, or via the internet. If you are a doctor – congratulations! You should still try to not be a jerk about our weight.
Stop side-eyeing us.
We can see you. It makes us feel like sh*t. If you don’t think this happens or you don’t recognize yourself doing it, Haley Morris-Cafiero has taken pictures to prove that – yes – it is happening and – yes – you may be side-eyeing us even when you don’t realize.
Stop using Fat as an insult.
We don’t know how many times we have to say this, but here we go again. Fat is not a bad word. Some people don’t have a problem with being called Fat, other people do. Stop using it to try and quantify someone’s lack of worth.
Stop telling us to “just lose weight.”
If it were that easy, I think a lot of us would have done it already. There are a lot of factors to consider when evaluating why someone is overweight – mental, emotional, physical, socioeconomic issues – and none of them have anything to do with you. It’s not your damn business.