For those of us who feel more comfortable donning clothing that covers our arms, legs, and tummies, summer is the rue of our existence because it’s just too damn hot to cover up as we would normally like.
Have I ever mentioned that I recently moved back to Los Angeles after living in San Francisco for close to 9 years? San Francisco’s summer comes around 1 day a year but Los Angeles’ accounts for the remaining 364. I’ve had to completely change my wardrobe to more appropriately suite the hot weather and, in the process, confront some serious demons about my body insecurities.
Like many of you, there are parts of my body I prefer to hide.
There has always been this irrational fear in the back of my mind that people will judge me for revealing my fat arms, stomach, or legs. Somehow, wearing modest clothing has made me believe that I am conning people into thinking I’m less Fat than I actually am.
In the past, I have subjected myself to near-heatstroke for the sake of hiding my insecurities via long sleeves, thick materials, and “slimming” colors (like black). I have avoided getting into bathing suits for fear that the whole world was staring at me. I have deliberately avoided having fun because I felt too Fat for summer.
BUT NO MORE.
This is toxic thinking and, unfortunately, we all fall into this thought pattern. What offends me most about this is that, like many of you, I would never allow my friends to self-deprecate the way I do.
I say, “I can’t show my Fat arms.”
My friend says, “Why not? They’re just arms.”
Herein lies the problem with our own insecurities - most of the time, we think people are judging us but they are not. And the people who are judging us can f*ck right off. When you treat yourself as a friend would, these negative thoughts become inconceivable and you are one step closer to building healthy self-confidence.
You do not need to hide your body.
So show off your Fat arms this summer! Wear that Fatkini! Start pushing the boundaries of what you may normally reach for in your closet. Get creative and challenge yourself to show a little more body. SUMMER IS HERE. Don’t waste it by hiding behind uncomfortable clothes.
Embrace your Fat, summer body.